Monday, 16 July 2018

Moving past a break up

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AND OTHER STORIES jeans*, ZARA tee, CONVERSE trainers, GUCCI bag, QUAY sunglasses

Photos by Hannah 

Another post no-one asked for, but here I am. Every time I write these kind of posts I always get flooded with messages from girls in the same boat, out of a long term relationship or newly single and trying to navigate dating and it makes me so happy that some of you can relate. The main thing I get asked/told is that I made the 'getting over' process look simple and "how on earth do I move on when it feels like life is ending?" - so I thought I'd write about it. In fairness too, I went through two break ups last year and I think the latter was harder, despite being for a far shorter time so it's all dependent on the situation.

A lil disclaimer that I am actually happily with someone new now, so while this doesn't currently apply - it did at one time in my life. 


Let's do this in a bullet point format, they're nice to layout.

    1. Keep busy. Like yes, obvious. Most of these are. Everyone tells you to keep yourself busy when you're newly single but it really is the most important factor in trying to claw back some happiness. I was finishing my degree when everything went pear shaped, so I didn't have the opportunity to slow down and spend days wallowing. Of course you're allowed to be sad, and have the odd day where you want to lie in bed and eat pizza but try and limit them.
    2. Start dating. A controversial one at best, but I have always found online dating to be the key to a) keeping myself occupied at random times friends were busy and also b) stopping you thinking about your ex. It doesn't necessarily mean you need to jump into bed with people, nor even go on dates - but there is a weird void that friends can't fill when you're newly single and simply put, sometimes you need someone to make you feel good about yourself and a lil bit confident. Sometimes aimlessly scrolling alone can be therapeutic enough, but I really found getting out and meeting new people helped me to feel better about myself and the situation I was in.
    3. Self care. Another obvious one, but again sometimes one we overlook. Take time to use a face mask while you're getting ready for bed, and keep your toenails polished. Seems so lacklustre but I even found putting fake tan on made me feel better about myself. I'd completely forgotten the point in doing these things if it wasn't for someone else, and it was mildly refreshing doing them for no one but me. Cute pants everyday, and what?
    4. Know you're better. A difficult one, because every break up is circumstantial, and no one might be in the wrong etc etc. But with mine, I wasn't in the wrong. I'd done everything I could to be a good girlfriend and still been treated badly. With that, I needed to walk away with my head held high knowing I'd been the better person, and eventually things go full circle, with everything happening for a reason. A year and a bit later, I met someone else who is everything I was looking for when I least expected it - living proof in that phrase lads.
    5. Focus on the whole. I've had people message me like "oh I've had the same happen to me, but you're only 23 (24 now) and I'm 30, you'll be fine - you're still young" and I think this is because people only look at the immediate. Yeah, it's pants to be 30 and newly single when all your friends are settling down and getting married but the real harsh reality is, would you want to be with someone who didn't love you? Or who cheated on you? Or didn't treat you right... just so you weren't single? After eight years it literally felt like I was back at the bottom when I became single, but the reality is, it's probably the best thing that ever happened to me and just know it might be for you too.
    6. Live now. The last one, but with having ME and also being a notorious 'no' gal, I felt like I let so many things slide and pass me by when I was with someone. I had to learn to say yes to things I wasn't sure I'd have the energy for, and go out when I really didn't fancy it. It lead to so many new memories, a tonne of new friends and just a hell of a lot of fun. I'd randomly end up out for drinks on a Tuesday night with half an hours notice - not getting home until 2am and it was bloody revitalising. You need to just stop worrying about the future and the what-if's and sometimes just forget it all. I was constantly plagued with 'how will I ever buy a house now?' and 'what if I don't ever meet anyone else?' and the reality is, you can't worry about it as there's nothing you can do to control it.
Anyway, I hope that was vaguely entertaining if you're going through a hard time. I really can relate, and I can also vouch that it will always get better. Promise!

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Saturday, 7 July 2018

my laser hair removal experience

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AND OTHER STORIES bikini top, LEVI shorts, PIECES hat, C√ČLINE sunglasses

So, if you follow me on Instagram you might know that I've been having laser hair removal for the past few months, and I thought after four sessions I'd check in and let you know my thoughts on it. Naturally I'm not going to show progress pictures for the reason that follows, so here's me in half a bikini looking pretty hairless.

Firstly, I'm having my bikini line done as it was the only place I get severely bored of shaving, my legs and underarms aren't an issue and overall I'm not a very 'hairy' person (lol). Laser predominantly works for people with darker hair as from what I understand, the laser is attracted to the pigment so it's worth remembering.

I have been having the treatment at Pulse Light's clinic on Fenchurch Street, it's super easy to get to and I've never had any issue with getting availability to suit me etc which is beyond handy.

In terms of the treatments, I didn't notice any difference until the second round. After that the hair growth was entirely slower and the hair had changed texture and was a lot thinner, less 'wiry' - wow. After four treatments I don't have to shave frequently at all, and it's never more than a small section of hair that grows back through. I'm absolutely confident that after 8 treatments I won't have to shave until it needs topping up!

Now, the pain: SO many people have told me it didn't hurt at all - I'm just going to say that they lied. It does bloody hurt me, but I think it's just in a fairly boney area, and the whole process is over in about 3 minutes so you can essentially just grin and bear it. It kind of feels like being flicked with an elastic band about 8 times and then it's over. Obviously the pain differs depending on where you get it done and also how long it takes. I've heard that the squishier the area, the less pain.

Overall, so far so good. It's weirdly so much less hassle when showering, and I can't believe how quick the results have been. I'm definitely going to look into getting my calves done during the winter (you can't have sun exposure during appointments!)  as that'll make getting ready an absolute breeze.

Disclaimer: this post isn't sponsored, but Pulse Light did provide the service for free in exchange for a review, but all opinions are my own as always!

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Thursday, 5 July 2018

some life updates and granita

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FOREVER 21 dress,  ZARA sandals (similar), ALDO sunglasses, TOPSHOP bag

Alreet lads, how are we? I'm making a conscious effort to blog more as it makes me really sad to think of this platform kind of dying out. I love reading blogs and sifting through pretty imagery so I hope it sticks around for a while! That said, I am aiming for three posts a week and a potential shift to Wordpress so here goes nothing.

Anyway, this is another outfit that I wore whilst on the Amalfi coast - I found this little linen dress for a tiny £16 so absolutely recommend snapping it up. I'm wearing a S for reference.

In terms of some updates, where are we? Firstly I'm still giving freelance/self employment a crack. It's bloody hard work and I'm not sure how long I can put up with it but I do enjoy every stress filled, invoice chasing minute. I'm also assisting some lovely ladies on creative bits and bobs which I also enjoy, so nice to work on a creative level with other bloggers.

I also spent the weekend at Trnsmt festival with Hannah, which was an experience. Not mad keen on being in the same place as 1028539 drugged up 16 year olds, but seeing Arctic Monkeys for the first time was bloody amazing. I also really loved Glasgow as a city and am going to try and squeeze another trip in ASAP. 

Speaking of trips, I've also just booked to go to Copenhagen again with my boyfriend in September. Lol, yep. Boyfriend. Hahaha feels weird being a girlfriend again, I've kind of forgotten what I'm supposed to do as I'm so used to being the long-term-gal-who-does-everything-and-gives-all-the-love so it's a bit of an adjustment, seeing as I don't think I was even in full swing of being single, let alone the new girl. Nonetheless, he's literally great and a complete spice (lol hi Kim you're defo reading this) so I'm super happy and finally have someone to adventure with again. Everything really does happen for a reason, init. Anyway, it'll be my third time in the city but do shout if you've got any recommendations!

That's probably all for now, speak to you soon.

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